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DEAR ABBY: I am presently ready to donate my kidney to my sister, who’s a yr older than I’m. My husband and I traveled many hours to get evaluated and examined at her clinic, so the insurance coverage would cowl the price.
Earlier than heading again to our house state, we determined to cease by to pay her a shock go to and, truthfully, she did one thing that is making me rethink my resolution. She was consuming pizza and consuming a can of soda. Abby, my sister is on dialysis and imagined to be following a strict weight loss plan.
I’ve been disciplined all my grownup life, residing a wholesome life and making sensible selections to learn my physique. Now that my sister wants a kidney, I really feel this will have been the rationale for my good habits. How can I stress to her how vital it’s to me that she undertake higher consuming habits if she is to get my kidney? — SECOND THOUGHTS IN TEXAS
DEAR SECOND THOUGHTS: Your issues are legitimate. Donating a kidney is a call that must be properly thought out. It’s also a call that’s in the end as much as solely you. It should not be made since you really feel strain primarily based on who you are donating to. Bear in mind, it is unimaginable to manage one other particular person’s habits. As soon as this valuable present is given, there is not any going again. Communicate up now and let her understand how you felt about what you noticed, however perceive it will not essentially assure that she’s going to make any modifications.
My suggestion is to proceed this dialog along with your residing donor social employee or ILDA (unbiased residing donor advocate) on the transplant middle the place you had been evaluated. These professionals may also help to information you towards making the very best resolution by additional exploring your issues, not just for you, but additionally your loved ones.
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