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Miami — After a routine examination 16 years in the past, Dr. Shawn Fibkins found that he had inherited polycystic kidney illness from his father.
“It was devastating for me as a result of now I used to be within the medical discipline and I knew what that illness meant for individuals: journeys to the hospital with ruptured mind aneurysms and kidney failure,” he mentioned.
That very same yr, the radiologist was inspired by his spouse to attend an Emmaus retreat at St. John Neumann parish in Miami the place he discovered not solely religious assist, however future bodily assist from retreat participant, John Fernandez.
Whereas the 2 males have been speaking, Fibkins advised Fernandez about his incurable kidney illness and fears of leaving his twin boys fatherless. When he mentioned his kidneys would ultimately fail, Fernandez casually replied, “In case you ever want a kidney, let me know man, I bought you.”
A couple of months later, Fibkins was recognized with an aneurysm and traveled to the College of Massachusetts for a process to forestall a rupture. His neighborhood of Emmaus “brothers” rallied to assist him, together with two males who got here to wish with him within the hospital.
Fibkins surrendered himself to God, conscious that his father had died of this similar kidney illness on the age of 35.
“As a Christian we’re at all times requested to offer every part as much as God and put him within the driver’s seat and let the Lord information us. And I did not actually know what that meant till I went by means of the aneurysm scare,” he recalled. “I selected that path and mentioned if that is my time to go then take me and I used to be OK with dying, really. That type of introduced me a peace.”
However the physician found he hadn’t really had an aneurysm. “If I had gone someplace else, he mentioned that they might have tried to deal with it and (I) would’ve had a extremely unhealthy consequence. So, I used to be undoubtedly in the fitting place. I really feel God type of pushed me alongside there and issues type of aligned,” Fibkins, now 47, advised the Florida Catholic, archdiocesan newspaper of Miami.
Fernandez, now 44, mentioned he felt a name from God to go away the company sector to change into director of spiritual schooling at St. John Neumann. Fibkins grew to become godfather to Fernandez’s first youngster, Priscilla, and moved to Parkland to begin his apply, however the buddies remained shut.
Then, in 2017, Fibkins’ kidney perform closely deteriorated. He gained 50 kilos and was sick daily. “You’re feeling like your physique is simply poisoned,” he mentioned, including that even for these on dialysis, “you continue to really feel horrible.”
He registered at Jackson’s Miami Transplant Institute. Relations and colleagues volunteered to donate a kidney however did not qualify as matches. All the time “ridiculously wholesome,” Fernandez shortly volunteered and matched, telling his pal: “Do not make a giant deal about it.”
However Fernandez nonetheless needed to inform his spouse. “She initially mentioned, ‘You may’t do this, what concerning the women, what about me?’ However mid-sentence then she mentioned, ‘In case you wanted it, I might hope someone would do it.'”
That sure meant every part to Fibkins. “It’s laborious to explain what it’s wish to have a pal prepared to put down a chunk of his life in order that yours could proceed.”
Inside a month, on Aug. 30, 2018, each checked into the hospital. “It was a type of rubber meets the highway moments,” recalled Fernandez. “No higher love says the Lord than to offer your life for a pal. However are you prepared? It’s extremely simple to show it, to learn it, to proclaim it, however do I’ve the center to do that?”
It additionally was the quintessential instance for his daughters, he mentioned.
Fibkins additionally ready for the process with religion in its consequence.
After a seven-hour surgical procedure, Fibkins mentioned his pal gave him a complete new life. “I really feel like I am cured. I stroll round, I am wholesome. I do every part I used to be doing earlier than I bought sick. It is like a miracle.”
And he was in a position to give again to his pal earlier than anticipated, when Fernandez’s dad and mom each died throughout the subsequent few months.
“Shawn known as each day, he got here down just a few occasions,” Fernandez mentioned. “Having this type of assist was what bought me by means of two very tough months.”
Following their surgical procedures, Fernandez was again to work in per week and Fibkins in three months, neither with problems. The radiologist takes 4 each day doses of medication, however he now feels nearer to his household, inhales life extra deeply, and empathizes extra profoundly with sufferers going through kidney failure and chemotherapy.
Fibkins, a member of Mary Assist of Christians Parish in Parkland, additionally feels impressed to talk on the security of kidney donation in gratitude for Fernandez.
“I drag John by means of this as a result of I really feel if we save one life it is value his grumbling,” he mentioned.
“There are such a lot of folks that want it. Lives might be saved. And that is a really Christian act, to offer a part of your self.”
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